A step outside your comfort zone..

Sometimes working outside your comfort zone introduces a purely new dimension to your life.. You are totally unfamiliar with the new innings coming in front of you.. I was quite scared with arranged marriage.. But sometimes, you have to give it a chance..

If you get lucky, you find the one who would care to understand the uneasiness inside you.. He would be sensible enough to create an easy - go environment where you feel comfortable to share your thoughts... People like me, who are quite taciturn need some more time to achieve that contentment...

Being practical is quite acceptable and appreciable till some extent.. But there arrives a time when you desire to be with someone who could just be with you and his presence makes you feel easy and secured without exchanging a word at all..

Every relation has its own importance and worth.. You cannot actually compare any two relations for a fact that it would be like comparing washing machine of one brand with a laptop of another brand... There is no point in doing so, both work in different environment and their applications are in total different fields..

Expectations are directly proportional to the proximity with any person... Be it a friend or parents or your love interest... You cannot share each and everything with anyone.. You do not expect any friend to be with you in every situation of your life... There are certain times when you need couple of friends around you but there are times when you need elderly advice no matter how smart or how experienced you are... But there happens to be that one person who would be silently staying in all those times, hoping you to notice that they are there everytime you seek someone to be there around you...

Surviving breakups is never an easy deal... You learn a lot in the process of surviving a breakup.. You get to know who is worth of your attention and your time..  You understand what are the things that you cannot compromise anymore, you get to know what is more important to endure a relation.. Reverence plays an important role, you must have a mutual respect for each other.. With each other, I do not mean it is restricted to two people but it comes as a package.. A package that include their tastes, their friends and family, their decisions.. Whether you agree or disagree, whether you like that or dislike it, you need to respect other's point of view without being disagreeable.. It is rightly said, "you can disagree without being disagreeable"!! So true!!  

Achieving all this might need you to move a little outside your contentment zone and play some new shots which you could not play in previous failures...

Zooming into the Life..

I have been visiting to one of our favourite hangouts with my childhood pal. We have been sitting on a big rock lying in the middle of clear waters of the river with legs being dipped in ripples coming by the rock.  

We have been talking about the problems facing in our lives. It is our common belief that we both have a bunch of the worst people experiences in our lives. When i view her life, at first glance all i could see was - a lady well settled with a government job and happy married life. So practically she seems to live one of the most ideal life. But after listening to her, when i zoomed in her life, i was able to see the microbes creating problems in her life. While the conversation was going on, i realized that no one is actually free from the worries. Yes, may be the intensities are different though. Yet, if we look at the person, we always feel that they are happier.  

When i view my life, i feel that perhaps I am the only one on whom the blessing clouds have stopped showering. The point is, unless you know thoroughly about people's life, you'll always find yourself miserable in their comparison. Moreover, everyone is struggling hard in one way or other to make one's life better.  

One of the most difficult times arrives when you face the catastrophes which leaves you completely broken. First it gets tough to face and get adapted to this adversity. This demands courage to face and accept.  

Acceptance - the fact that people are unable to grasp hardships that they never imagined would happen to them is mainly due to lack of acceptance.  

Many people are deeply affected by situations whether they are good or bad. There was a formation of summarized statement from shree bhagwad geeta,

Good and bad times come and go - keeping a stable state of mind in either of the situations is the only key to survive happily!

I have learned that practicing acceptance towards all the hard luck events will improve the person's attitude towards tough times gradually. And then there would be a time when the person will reach a state where he could readily evaluate almost all the circumstances occurring in the life. And when nothing seems to work, keep repeating one thing in the mind that, "this too shall pass"! 

A natter with an old pal..

Today I talked to an old friend of mine.. We were not in touch since years... He said he tried around 4 numbers and during 5^th time it actually got connected to me... We never got to talk this way since years may be because we both assumed that we are too busy in our lives.. But sometimes you do miss your old buddies yet you could not reach to that point to just "call" them up ignoring other formalities..

There happened to be lots of ups and downs in our lives.. And I always used to believe he survives the downfalls because he is less sensitive perhaps.. Or maybe he is more strong (yes of course !) but he admitted that he even cries sometimes but then he feels when people have moved on in their lives then why we are holding the same things and crying over that!! There is no point to do so!! And he is very true on this.. I mean there is no point to punish yourself just because others leave you alone..

He said a line that impressed me a lot - "Tomorrow if I could not open my eyes, there won't be any regret that I did not live my life when I had a chance"!! Yes! Quite true... I never imagined that "he" is going to be the source of inspiration for writing an article!! (Grin)..

We definitely have a right to direct our life for moving on forward leaving all the grudges and packages that belong to past in past itself.. This friend of mine lives a life that as such looks like very "happy-go-lucky" life so I always used to wonder that how he could survive some of the biggest debacles of his life.. Today, I somehow asked him this reason - and he says it is not that he is insensitive or emotionless but yes he is strong enough to balance his life in a state which seems quite regular to others..

In this entire talk, I was awestruck!! Is this the same guy who happened to be bunking classes when we used to hurry to attend them or snatching away the books when we happened to be under hell lots of stress during exams!!! Where does all this come from today!! This was supposed to be one of the most inspired talk I ever had with anyone..