Ek Pyali Chai..

"Madam, ek pyali chai?" a kid named Sachin asked me while I was lost in the thoughts of enjoying the smell of first rain near the beach. 

Ek Pyali Chai !

After facing the severe Summer, first rain indeed brought lush green grass and sapling around the beach area. This kid has always been serving tea in this area since I joined this research. He has been knowing me since I corrected his English greeting statement, "Madam, Hello! Good Night, How are you?" There is this inherent characteristic to correct the statements inside my mind and since I knew, Sachin would never mind, I uninterruptedly corrected him, "Sachin, when you meet someone at night, you greet them with Good Evening and bid bye with Good Night." Unlike any other person, he accepted my correction with affirmative nod. 

Neelu and I have always been going out for a walk and Neelu would shout at the tea stall where he works, "Hero, do garamagarm chai le aana bina pani dale". He would smile and make tea in a separate container Neelu has specially given for making her tea. Last birthday, we got him admitted to his village school and got him new text books and stationary. Since then he stopped working at the tea stall but he used to catch us up with chai made at his stall specifically with Neelu's instructions during weekends. 

This morning, I was reading local evening newspaper and it was having his name for topping his school in standard 10th. I felt so noble about the move of admitting him to school. We are no God to change anyone's life but if I could be a tiniest part of someone's success, I feel good about myself. Today, when he arrived with his usual tone taking a cup of tea in his hand, I could see his twinkling eyes. I took the cup from his hands. I wished him "congratulations", he shot back, "Thank you Madam." Hesitatingly he interrupted my intention of taking my first sip,"Madam main apko didi bualu"? I smiled and nodded. His smile was too big to be called a smile and too less to be called a grin. He left dancing weirdly crossing his feet and jumping. 

My mind was still urging me to take my first sip ignoring every other thoughts of nobleness, gazing back at the sea whose end was getting dissolved in the humidity.

The magic of NOSTALGIA!

There is a powerful effect of positive people in your life. I have seen how well they pull you off the negativity, lousy and atrocious climate. There are times when you just feel so depressive no matter how hard you try to be happy. In those times, I have been in touch some of the world's fantastic people in my life that had this effect on me. 

The time spent with them "once upon a time" which clouds me as nostalgia, is sufficient leaving a smile on my face! Those wonderful times, when there was nothing to pretend and nothing to worry about nor to lie about. Getting in touch with those people who had this power to make me nostalgic about the moments I once spent with them brings out superior joy to me. 

Those times: 

When you just do not have to see what time is it before messaging and you do not have to ignore the message that says "I am not sleepy, just call me asap". And if I saw it, I would call right away. And vice versa. That happened a lot one of my best roomies.

Being really really "wild & crazy" to those people who are trying to put you down and/or bringing hell out of you - I mean really laughing at those attempts with some of the best pals and people in your life is something! 

Roaming out in subways & local buses just because outside climate is too dusty or too hot / cold and just because you got a full day ticket to use! 

Watching "rats & roaches” running away from you because you showed them that they no longer can bother you! 

Your friends making you do you are most afraid of and then once done, feeling that you have conquered the world! 

Your same crazy friends making & forcing you to be yourself no matter how badly you are knocked out in your life! 

Going out at the same old place in the middle of some old bridge over river - where villagers even doubt you as smuggler yet giving them benefit of doubt ;)

Indeed, it was good old times that mostly aided me to go back there again and again! Those crazy memories will always be with you even when those people might be far far away from you.

Swaying leaves of Memories...

 

20 August 2013

Far away in the crimson twilight, I see an ardor of Sun barely visible in the dusk... I waddle into the pellucid water, with pebbles tingling under my feet... 

A strong breeze passes by bringing down myriad maple leaves' shower over me!!! This is the pulchritude of nature... These falling leaves remind me of the people whom I met in my life, those who stayed wid me for a while and left wid seasonal breeze... Some of them taught me lessons... Some of them gave mindfulness memories... Some of them make me float on quiet chuckles... :) 

 

But out of all that, an interesting question lies on a fact whether to hold on anything or to let it go... And if I decide to hold on something then till what extent and how long!! We are a part of so called "Pragmatic World" where we need to add a finite number to answer above question... 

 

Pondering over that - there are some beautiful memories that make me feel good even when I am currently not a part of any of those things that made them... And sometimes it pains thinking that too.. Now it is on me whether to let go those memories or hold upon them because they come with a pain too and joy of cherishing... That finite number would differ from person to person... I might need more time to decide how to deal with it to create a balance so that to get the right amount of joy and the just enough pain that I can accept widout smashing up in despair... This critical balance when is achieved, you feel blessed and you have got the key of being in a state of cheerful all time... 

 

Someone has rightly said, "Only that much pain enters us which we allow to".. We are sole responsible people for switching in between two modes of being "happy" or "sad"... 

It becomes necessary that our duty is to do the best in whatever we do, rest, if things do not turn out to be in favor then they will be coming with lots of lessons which would definitely give you a reason to be happy for "next time"...

I do believe in one thing that what is meant to be, will always find its way... No matter how hard it gets, no matter how unachievable it seems; it will make it way to you at "right" time and NOT your time...

 

Every coin has two sides !!

04 March 2014

08:49 

The question whether the glass is half filled or half empty is subjective! You do not have to perform any experiments to prove that.. This universe is comprising of a variety of things!! To call them interesting or uninteresting would again be subjective.. 

 

India has so many diversification... People with different perspective, stamina, and background staying and working together here.. My own work place is loaded with so hodgepodge.. I am surrounded with people from almost all the parts of India.. My own department might be consisting of people from at least 7 states.. So naturally the outlook of all would be quite different.. I see when we discuss the problem in a conference room, to one problem we get 7 different solutions from all of us.. I wonder if we are actually trying to solve the problem or we adding to it!! 

 

Two best pals differ in lot many ways.. I know my best pal and I have quite different views.. She gets highly influenced by the surroundings be it a work place or home.. On contrary, I take time to get that color on me... It doesn't mean I am acting rigid.. But, I have this habit to "over-think" at times which makes me to evaluate if the surrounding is worth getting its impact on me or

not!!

 

Every situation comes with two faces - good or bad.. Point is which side you see adequate to make you feel better.. There are people who could see just one little good thing in the biggest disasters.. Like surviving Tsunami, in spite of losing your entire family & home & everything you used to rely on, is real heartbreaking but still survival itself is a big hope to start everything afresh..  

 

It is just a matter of how you see the things coming in life.. People make things from wrong perspective - they really do, we all do.. No one is perfect and only wise ones learn from that so that they could not repeat the same thing over & over again.. At times, people see only the wrong or negative side of any situation but one has to remember always that there is still one more angle to this situation and there is nothing wrong in trying that.. Already you are looking from negative end i.e. you are ready for the worst circumstance so looking from other angle would be either better than this or the same... Hence there is no harm in trying that... Make sure you have at least given a priority to a "little better" than the worst scenario... That will make your sight very positive...  Seeking small small good things in worst case, tiny success in midst of biggest failures and little hope to accept the change for the betterment - that helps a lot to be happy almost all the times... 

 

Problems that we face come as a statement - it is our emphasis on it which shapes it in small or large size.. Every problem is always "tailed" with a solution, not every one can see that tail moving behind the problem.. And this happens because we are so busy in defining the class of the problem we forget to seek its tailing solution..